Balance is a fallacy

If you think you can truly balance your life, work, family time, you time, side hustle time… well, think again!

You may think of balance as giving a certain amount of time to all of the things that needs attention in your life all the time. You then get stressed when you feel you don’t have ‘balance’ when things are falling through the cracks.

But here’s the thing… that’s not realistic. There are times when that works, and you’re feeling great about things. Then, bamm, something changes! Balls start getting dropped and you feel out of balance.

Well, that means it’s time to rethink where you are and re-balance, and be OK with it. Don’t beat yourself up about it!

I had big goals for my side hustle this year. When the pandemic hit, it was a positive for me as it meant no travel for business, so more time I could spend on my side hustle. Then, the project I was working started sucking up more and more time. Was still feeling like I was balancing OK, then summer arrived!

Well… summers in Minnesota are short, and with this whole pandemic situation, the only people I’m really seeing on a regular basis are my neighbors. I’m really loving getting to know them more! Two of the three couples are only here in the summers, and sometimes only on the weekends. So when they are here, deck time is important… it isn’t time I can ever get back.

Instead of being frustrated and beating myself up for not putting in what I felt was ‘enough time’ on my business this summer, I decided to let it go, and be OK with it. I’m not going to be able to get the summer back, or catch up on it later, but I can do that with my business once we hit the winter months and no more deck time. So… I decided the way I’m balancing my life this summer is OK. I’m no longer letting it frustrate me.

When working a side hustle, whether it’s just you, or your working with a team, always be conscious of where people are in their lives and realize everyone, including you, must make their own decisions on how to balance their life.

When looking at other people, it’s easy to compare… ‘look how much time they are putting into their business’, or ‘if that person would just focus more they could get so much better results.’ It’s not our place to judge, question, or compare. You may be comparing yourself to someone who is doing a business full time, instead of balancing it as a side hustle, or someone who’s a stay at home mom, but is also homeschooling her kids… you just don’t know everyone’s situation.

Balance can be just like the seasons, it changes throughout the year, or throughout your life. For some people it’s a time in their live where they may have to step back from a side hustle – aging parents needing more time, health issues in the family, a new baby. There are so many things that can impact where a person chooses to spend their time and feel balanced, and no one else should judge or compare themselves to someone else.

Balance is all about YOU. You being comfortable with your life… are you comfortable that you’re giving your full time job the attention it needs? What about your family? Time for you? Are you happy? If yes, then you have balance. Yeah you!!

On the other hand if you’re frustrated you aren’t accomplishing something you want, or your side hustle isn’t growing as fast as you’d like, then you need to evaluate where you’re spending your time. Maybe you’ll feel better if you find some more time to put towards your side hustle, and give a little less somewhere else, or be OK with it taking longer than you hoped.

Balance is what YOU make it. Don’t let anyone try and tell you otherwise.

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